Simplify Parenting And Support Your Child’s Development The Easy Way

“Do I actually need this [insert new toy, program or extra-curricular activity]?”

I get asked this question often, and the answer almost every time is… no, you don’t.

Because as a parent, it can feel like you need to have all the answers — and if you don’t know something, there’s pressure to find out right away. These situations can be overwhelming and confusing, and that doesn’t even begin to cover the cost of all these products being marketed as essential for supporting your child's development. 

The worst part is… As you buy more products, you have more questions, and after a while, everything seems to contradict itself. 

But what if I told you that you didn’t need all this "stuff?" You can support your child's development in very simple ways — without breaking the bank. 

My answer to the never-ending, often trending complicated parenting strategies of today is: Let’s go back to the basics.

What Doesn’t Work

When I first started fostering children, I thought I needed to do e-very-thing. I joined every group, bought every educational toy and tried to do every recommended activity with my little ones. At this point, I had a full-time job and had just gone from no kids to two one-year-olds in a matter of days. 

I knew there had to be a better way, so I went to the research — and it turns out the science was a lot simpler than I thought.

Trying to “do it all” is actually detrimental to kids. Being overscheduled can lead to anxiety and lack of independence in kids, not to mention the mental health repercussions for you as the parent.

Following the science, I had to find a way to simplify parenting while still supporting my children’s development.

Most importantly, I realized that parenting is more about being there than specifically doing things for your kids. 

Nothing Can Replace You

The #1 best way to support your child's development is by providing them with a safe, loving environment. That doesn't mean you need to spend a lot of money on the latest toys or gadgets, or have a perfect house, or be a super parent.

It simply means being present and available for your child. No product can replace the importance of you providing a foundation of love and security.

It’s not just common sense that says this. Research shows that, “the most valuable gift a child can receive is free; it’s simply a parent’s love, time and support.”

So, if you’re giving your child your love and support, you’re already a great parent.

Ways To Express Love For Your Child(ren)

Being available for your child(ren) looks different for every family. 

Here are some simple tips that have worked for me, and withstood the test of time:

• Be there for your child. Listen to them, talk to them and spend time with them.
• Create a routine for your family that provides structure and consistency.
• Encourage your child to express their emotions.
• Read with your children and ask them questions.
• Model the behaviour you want to see in your child.
• Limit screen time and provide opportunities for outdoor play and exploration.
• Encourage your child's imagination and creativity.
• Support your child’s development with age-appropriate activities.  

Finding ways to show your child love depends on your child’s personality, development level, interests, and you. 

Parenting Resources

As I’ve worked to simplify my own parenting methods, I’ve discovered numerous tools, tactics and techniques that I want to share with other parents. If you’re looking for a way to simplify parenting and build strong connections with your kids, my free foundational program, Attached at the Heart, is for you.

Parenting doesn't have to be complicated or expensive — you don't need all the stuff. Just focus on the basics, and you'll be on your way to supporting your child's development simply and effectively in no time.